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Regrets?

Take 1 minute to read or watch 4 ways to handle regrets!

First let’s define “regret”. As a verb regret is to feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over something that happened in the past. As a noun, yes it can be a noun too, regret is not just a feeling but a full body experience of sadness, repentance, disappointment or possibly discouragement over something that has happened or been done.

Most people have at least one of those feelings or experiences.

Are you dealing with regret? Here’s a 2 step process to REALLY deal with regret.

Step 1 - Assess the Source of the regret.

Step 2 - Take Action that aligns with the Source.

3 Typical sources of regrets are either:

1. Real guilt,

2. False guilt, or

3. The voice of the accuser as we read in Revelation 12:10. The Accuser throws around thoughts, images, self-doubt, and feelings of guilt or shame.

4 ways to handle the regret

1. If it’s real guilt, then we have a clear plan from the biblical that also aligns with clinical research. Real guilt is where you did something that would be considered wrong or something that God’s Word describes as sin. If the regret is sourced in real guilt, then you want to allow yourself to let God’s kindness lead you to repentance. Repentance is when you turn away from the wrong thing/sin and you turn towards God’s way leading to hope. So If it’s real guilt deal with it with kindness that leads to repentance.

2. If the source is False Guilt, then we also have a clear plan from both biblical and clinical. False guilt is when you think you did something wrong but in actuality you didn’t do anything that goes against God’s word. Typically this brings a feeling of embarrassment or maybe shame. Often there’s some thoughts or talk that includes the words “Oh, I should have done…” or “If only I would have…”, or maybe “Looking back I could have even…”. Those should’s, would’s, and could’s can stick around with false guilt. If it’s false guilt, tell yourself “I don’t do should’a, would’a, could’a’s!”. Just telling yourself you don’t do shoulda, woulda, coulda’s is quite helpful. Try it!

3. If the source is the Voice of the accuser, then biblical is very clear! We read that God’s word is alive and active. There are multiple verses on how to handle the accuser that comes to attack in our thoughts, dreams, and in other ways. First we submit to God. James 4:7-10 and Ephesians 6 declares first submit yourself to God. Then declare the blood of Christ covers you as a believer. Then you stand firm in the truth of God’s Word. Lastly you declare the word of God, “God’s Word states that as a believer in Jesus, there is therefore no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. I believe Jesus is the Christ and He is my Savior. So accuser, Go in Jesus Name. Holy Spirit Come!”. Scripture states that the enemy will flee from you.

To continue to remain free of regret, apply a healthy rhythm for your spirit, soul, and body. Spiritually, daily encounter God and read the Word of God so you can have the mind of Christ. For your mind, will, and emotions (your soul), take control of any wayward thoughts to renew your mind, think on things that are only allowed through the filter of God’s Word, express healthy emotions in healthy relationships, and learn to be emotionally healthy spiritually with age-appropriate maturity. Physically, let your body enjoy those things that align with treating your body as a temple of God. And enjoy this amazing and brilliant life in ways that you can celebrate not just in the moment but for years to come, free of regret.

Tips to Talk to kids about trauma, grief, and loss.

In this video we talk about the top questions most parents or caregivers want to know. Originally recorded after the Texas Hill Country floods, this video will also apply in other situations.

1. How do I talk to my child about something traumatic?

2. What is trauma from a child’s perspective?

3. Is a traumatic event that happened to my child going to cause PTSD?

4. Can seeing something on their video game or a movie be traumatic?

5. What do I look for in behaviors after a traumatic event?

6. Do kids consider the recent flooding traumatic?

7. How do I handle night terrors?

8. What is my role in talking with my kids about trauma or loss?

9. Is it actually helpful to bring up the facts?

10. What are some ways God says to handle trauma?

Plus 9 tips to care for kids or teens after a traumatic event.

1. Understand how trauma works

2. Realize kids brains process differently than adults.

3. Connect with God before you care.

4. Offer active listening.

5. Your role is not to fix or rush the healing process. Your role is to ask Holy Spirit what you say and do, then say and do those things.

6. Share openly side-by-side or while walking or doing an activity. Use emotional expression tools as you share.

7. Reassure to provide ongoing safety and restore trust.

8. Use Both/And where things can both hurt and also be healing at the same time. Apply Feel/Like/Know in conversation.

9. Invite them to talk with Jesus about all their questions since Scripture says he understands what we go through.

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